tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post5702023070028710088..comments2023-09-28T06:41:43.408-05:00Comments on Fairly Odd Mother: Mean Girls Hurt Moms TooFairly Odd Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11974404093257620566noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-86360078520268901192009-03-18T00:26:00.000-05:002009-03-18T00:26:00.000-05:00I swear that all blonde girls aren't mean. I bet ...I swear that all blonde girls aren't mean. I bet Tacy would love be Belly's (and Jilly's) friend.<BR/><BR/>That said, I understand. My little blondie was told by a classmate - when she wasn't even THREE - that she was ugly. It cuts to the bone, doesn't it?Julie Marshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05386446012443269817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-74560898522364190092009-03-11T13:48:00.000-05:002009-03-11T13:48:00.000-05:00Mean girls can grow up to be very mean women, a le...Mean girls can grow up to be very mean women, a lesson I was recently given again.<BR/><BR/>And when one of my kids waits to tell me like that? It breaks my heart a little more than the story alone does. Luckily, our school is very intolerant of bullying, and the kids are taught acceptance from birth (we're military...kids come and go constantly...it's just a fact of life), but these things still happen. And when they do, it sucks.<BR/><BR/>Just because I like to put my two cents in, you did a great thing in letting her choose whether to return to the camp or not. And letting her know she handled it well.Mamalanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00200657325831762553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-52801441124697690412009-03-10T19:38:00.000-05:002009-03-10T19:38:00.000-05:00It just breaks my heart for her that she's been ca...It just breaks my heart for her that she's been carrying that around for many months. Just shows you how fragile they are, and how easily someone can take a piece of their spirit. She's lucky to have a mom like you who she can come to, even if it takes a while for her to feel ready.Mama Casshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00087138283943633809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-90156516053550805802009-03-09T12:38:00.000-05:002009-03-09T12:38:00.000-05:00Oh, this is heartbreaking. How could anyone be mea...Oh, this is heartbreaking. How could anyone be mean to such a cutie?!?<BR/><BR/>Despite the fact that it was seven months later, I'm glad she brought it up now so you could talk about it together.Mama Goosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06981857083383583631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-65442198424563361922009-03-06T15:52:00.000-05:002009-03-06T15:52:00.000-05:00Posts like this frighten me. My kid is only five,...Posts like this frighten me. My kid is only five, and going to camp this summer, and she's going to get older, and ...<BR/><BR/>Oy. I'm sorry that there are mean kids - I wish there weren't.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-669858949830942182009-03-06T12:51:00.000-05:002009-03-06T12:51:00.000-05:00My little blondie's feelings have been HORRIBLY hu...My little blondie's feelings have been HORRIBLY hurt all week when ALL of the other girls in her grade (all four of them) suddenly started deliberately leaving her out. And my feelings ached, too. My poor baby.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-37254299765088278112009-03-05T22:08:00.000-05:002009-03-05T22:08:00.000-05:00God that's just horrible. I'm so sorry for Belly. ...God that's just horrible. I'm so sorry for Belly. Mean girls....sigh. Sometimes I think having all boys would have been easier.Issahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11309906249557761472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-70137628090459985422009-03-05T21:04:00.000-05:002009-03-05T21:04:00.000-05:00I LOL at that statement "Mean Girls are like Cockr...I LOL at that statement "Mean Girls are like Cockroaches"<BR/><BR/>That was perfect!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-91934175010414584432009-03-05T19:47:00.000-05:002009-03-05T19:47:00.000-05:00I hate that stuff. Poor Belly. This is a major r...I hate that stuff. Poor Belly. This is a major reason for homeschooling for me. I know we can't shelter them from everything but hopefully we can be there to knock those bullies out if we have to!Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00634491849442118492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-11016372161867167282009-03-05T18:24:00.000-05:002009-03-05T18:24:00.000-05:00Weird as it sounds when my son was born, (and I li...Weird as it sounds when my son was born, (and I literally mean within hours of him being born) the thought crossed my mind that one day another child would hurt him, or embarrass him, or bully him. I burst into tears on the spot. <BR/>Bullies are a horrible party of growing up--but like you said they do have learn to deal with all kinds.Gray Matter Mattershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04229890109467300091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-69093036455930669212009-03-05T17:14:00.000-05:002009-03-05T17:14:00.000-05:00What a heartbreaking aspect of childhood. If she ...What a heartbreaking aspect of childhood. If she didn't tell you right away, at least she eventually told you.<BR/><BR/>I wish these things didn't happen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-68527723128153416592009-03-05T16:37:00.000-05:002009-03-05T16:37:00.000-05:00This is the part about parenting that most frighte...This is the part about parenting that most frightens me. I'm a mama bear through and through and I don't know how I'll handle mean girls. Having been bullied for 2 years, I feel sorry for the child that tries that junk on my kids.Jennifer https://www.blogger.com/profile/08191366421121919596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-68690255489109300442009-03-05T15:14:00.000-05:002009-03-05T15:14:00.000-05:00Wow! This is tough situation. We don't want to put...Wow! This is tough situation. We don't want to put our kids in a situation where they're gonna get hurt emotionally of physically, but we need to let them learn how to manage conflict too. <BR/><BR/>Personally? I would have cracked some skulls. But I'm a bad ass like that. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-69455740458109977022009-03-05T15:08:00.000-05:002009-03-05T15:08:00.000-05:00Poor Belly. She's been mulling that over for a wh...Poor Belly. She's been mulling that over for a while. <BR/><BR/>Last month on vacation we were at a playground. Another boy ran up to my five year old and punched him twice in the stomach. My son just stood there in shock. <BR/><BR/>I made a bee line for him and the other kid (who saw me coming and ran over to his dad -- a mean biker dude who pointedly avoided eye contact with me, but grabbed his kid by the scuff of his neck and dragged him toward the parking lot) and the Ambassador burst into tears. Not because he was hurt (he's got an older brother so he knows how to take a punch) but out of shock. It was his first time ever encountering a person whom he could not completely charm. <BR/><BR/>Whereas my eldest (who spent one year at public school) knows all too well the fickle friendships and easy violence of the playground.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-67417421383386262072009-03-05T09:47:00.000-05:002009-03-05T09:47:00.000-05:00I'm sorry. I share your anger. I know those girls....I'm sorry. I share your anger. I know those girls. My girl encounters them sometimes. And I encounter their mothers and fathers and then, hard as it is for me to believe, I have a tiny bit of sympathy for the girls. And then I get all angry about what they've done and the sympathy gets pushed aside.Patois42https://www.blogger.com/profile/07764936858778730692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-87218082855806130242009-03-05T08:32:00.000-05:002009-03-05T08:32:00.000-05:00Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr... Jerky girls suck. Mess wit...Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr... Jerky girls suck. Mess with my Belly and I'll push you in the mud.<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, kids are kids-- mean crap and all, and this stuff is just part of the whole natural state of the universe. When animals see a weakened member of the pack, they usually eat it. <BR/><BR/>I remember being good friends with two other girls. We would somehow rotate which two were 'best friends' and kinda nudge out the third. It would change a few weeks later. I can't say I learned this behavior somewhere. <BR/><BR/>But shame on parents for not doing more to foster a sense of 'do unto others' and 'you reap what you sow'. That's part of our daily lessons. At the same time, while I'm working on trying not to raise jerky kids, I want my kids to know how to stick up for themselves, to knock down those who try to put themselves above others. But I can't say that will be easy or without tears. <BR/><BR/>Daaaaamn.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-69039906307900745052009-03-05T08:05:00.000-05:002009-03-05T08:05:00.000-05:00I've never been able to deal with those mean kids....I've never been able to deal with those mean kids. Even when my oldest was little, they were around and I would glare at them when nobody else was looking because, children or not, they HURT MY BABY and I hated them for it.<BR/><BR/>My daughter is also famous for not telling me about things until later. I'm constantly asking her "Why didn't you tell the teacher?" She's never been a kid that tells on other kids and dammit, I wish she was sometimes because some of those kids really need to be called out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-41944656101152831082009-03-05T05:39:00.000-05:002009-03-05T05:39:00.000-05:00It always saddens me to hear about kids being mean...It always saddens me to hear about kids being mean to other kids. As a former picked on kid (hey, you try being the kid with BIG hearing aids), I don't take too kindly to meanness.<BR/><BR/>For mean kids, I make them write a list of 10 things they DON'T like about themselves. Then I remind them not to advertise another child's weaknesses because they have weaknesses themselves. I hope it helps. <BR/><BR/>And while there are anti-bullying laws laying around, they often don't back up the schools. And the stories are often complex. It takes a LOT to kick a mean kid out of school (it has never happened in my school - just sayin). Especially in elementary school.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06999741671175495307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-27789091827598046922009-03-05T01:29:00.000-05:002009-03-05T01:29:00.000-05:00I hated those little blond girls when I was a kid....I hated those little blond girls when I was a kid. They were ALWAYS mean to me. I feel for the first mean kid that starts in on my little one. He's got a mean left hook.poosemommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01831041071109831330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-34299056518813460442009-03-05T01:01:00.000-05:002009-03-05T01:01:00.000-05:00Yikes, I can really sympathize with you on this! M...Yikes, I can really sympathize with you on this! My son had a problem with two kids consistently being mean and hateful towards him in 8th grade. They ruined his reputation, they made both our lives miserable and they caused nothing but heartache for six months that year. <BR/>Every now and again, some of the made-up rumors come back around and my son has to deal with all the bad feelings again, two yrs later. <BR/>It's so heart-breaking to not be able to keep them in a little bubble of goodness and peace.Lifeofkaylenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03470854343779969623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-30768455052286981892009-03-04T23:01:00.000-05:002009-03-04T23:01:00.000-05:00When I hear things like this, it actually frighten...When I hear things like this, it actually frightens me how easily I might resort to animal behavior in defense of my child.<BR/><BR/>If Ben told me someone hurt him, I cannot say I would not drive to the child's house and physically harm him.<BR/><BR/>Scary, eh? You are a better mom than I--taking your thoughts to your blog instead of the mean girls' craniums. :o)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17893337600207680012noreply@blogger.com