tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post4245339696842687686..comments2023-09-28T06:41:43.408-05:00Comments on Fairly Odd Mother: I Am Ated.Fairly Odd Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11974404093257620566noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-41665886579188666402008-03-19T08:50:00.000-05:002008-03-19T08:50:00.000-05:00Einey the other night wrote "I hate and then a lis...Einey the other night wrote "I hate and then a list of her sisters and us". She and husband had a long talk about it and what it means and how others feel when she says it. I guess she got very sad. He kept it so that its a reminder of how words can hurt people's feelings.<BR/><BR/>I don't like hearing "I hate you" but for some reason, I get a chckle when Moe says "I don't like you Mommy". Probably because of the crossed arms, hairy eyeball and squished face that usually accompanies it.<BR/><BR/>I usually tell them, I'm sorry you feel that way, but I still love you very much. Maybe we can talk more when you like me again. And usually a little bit later I hear a soft "I love you mom".Whirlwindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16865143484526708978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-4335343356042973812008-03-18T22:36:00.000-05:002008-03-18T22:36:00.000-05:00Ugh. The dreaded "I hate you!" I've heard it a f...Ugh. The dreaded "I hate you!" I've heard it a few times... along with the "you're mean!" At my house that is a one way ticket to the bedroom. I tell the boys that they are allowed to dislike me (or any other grown up, for that matter) or think I'm mean all they want - but, they are NOT allowed to say it out loud as it is hurtful and disrespectful. <BR/><BR/>On the plus side, it's gotten me some of their most heartfelt apologies. There is nothing wrong with standing your ground with your kids.Imstellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033409573465448486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-23305768828623851762008-03-17T21:42:00.000-05:002008-03-17T21:42:00.000-05:00You are definately not alone my friend. M was wri...You are definately not alone my friend. M was writing a sentence today with spelling words and she wrote "I wish my mom was nice." Ahhh!! BTW, I have that book and keep telling myself I must re-read it again as I am not applying the methods...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-90005561229450485052008-03-17T20:47:00.000-05:002008-03-17T20:47:00.000-05:00oh my, I HEAR YA SISTER! Good luck!oh my, I HEAR YA SISTER! Good luck!Sushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00706761082755643183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-81972143344345754372008-03-17T12:29:00.000-05:002008-03-17T12:29:00.000-05:00Isn't parenting fun? I never believed that the ti...Isn't parenting fun? I never believed that the time change could really make that much of a difference, but I swear this past week my kids have really been out of sorts.Alex Elliothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08567976812466320977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-52065425231926722622008-03-17T10:24:00.000-05:002008-03-17T10:24:00.000-05:00I read those books and convince myself that the au...I read those books and convince myself that the authors can't possibly have children themselves. Then I find out they have five. And they are all well adjusted. And smile a lot. Damn...<BR/><BR/>But then I secretly think that the authors didn't actually follow their own advice. They probably yelled a lot too. Because dear god, I can't be that bad at this...<BR/><BR/>Though the other day Mare told me that she wished every kid could have a mom as great as me. Sniff. Sweet heaven, I love 6 year olds.<BR/><BR/>Best piece of advice I've ever gotten wasn't really advice. It was reassurance from another mom that kids are really good at forgetting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-75542136624846693062008-03-17T09:53:00.000-05:002008-03-17T09:53:00.000-05:00They naughty step doesn't even work for us. She ju...They naughty step doesn't even work for us. She just laughs.<BR/><BR/>I feel your pain even though I haven't heard "I hate you" yet. But it's coming. I can feel it.Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-54945500902595018312008-03-17T08:50:00.000-05:002008-03-17T08:50:00.000-05:00((HUGS)) I know how hard it can be to feel the way...((HUGS)) I know how hard it can be to feel the way you do.<BR/>Chin up, better weather always seems to adjust the kiddos attitude.Moments Of Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07125803464469304079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-9074917038351820802008-03-17T08:41:00.000-05:002008-03-17T08:41:00.000-05:00So, so true. I hate leaving the house in the morni...So, so true. I hate leaving the house in the morning with the kids slamming doors and barely speaking to each other. The day looms large in times like those.jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15074098641163643790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-19644125556774858632008-03-16T10:40:00.000-05:002008-03-16T10:40:00.000-05:00One of my friends taught me just to answer to the ...One of my friends taught me just to answer to the child very peacefully: Yes , You say you hate me...<BR/>You will see the effect...<BR/>You just answer to what ever , "yes you say"<BR/>You recognise what they are saying but it doesn't meen you agree. It is putting the responsabilitie on there shoulders.<BR/>When you react like that they quickly realise it has no input (?) on you! <BR/>(sorry I am french!)<BR/>I can tell you it worked really well(I brought up 5 children)<BR/>Someone else also told me to say<BR/>"do you think or do you believe you are behaving properly?"(or what ever the problem...it makes all the difference to call to there opinion then giving yours!!)<BR/>Send them back to there own responsabilitie...it really helped me a lot!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-58165016032171844142008-03-15T20:40:00.000-05:002008-03-15T20:40:00.000-05:00Yesterday sucked at my house. The nadir was a scre...Yesterday sucked at my house. The nadir was a screaming match between me and ALL THREE of my kids that I still feel kind of horribly guilty about. Bleh.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-22918366669553008102008-03-15T19:53:00.000-05:002008-03-15T19:53:00.000-05:00I don't have any steps in my house, but if I did, ...I don't have any steps in my house, but if I did, rest assured, they would ALL be naughty steps!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14168533140261674250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-35455180177437435242008-03-15T16:52:00.000-05:002008-03-15T16:52:00.000-05:00YUCK! We had a day like that yesterday which ende...YUCK! We had a day like that yesterday which ended up with DQ being grounded for the whole weekend. Now I realize that's more a punishment for me than her....UGH!<BR/><BR/>I get "I hate you" a lot, to which I respond. "That means I'm going a good job!" which really pisses her off :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-46166977526001541002008-03-15T09:09:00.000-05:002008-03-15T09:09:00.000-05:00Sounds like you've also been chewed up and spit ou...Sounds like you've also been chewed up and spit out. Hope you feel better soon.toyfotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17925976386177377987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-80071552379379345842008-03-15T03:58:00.000-05:002008-03-15T03:58:00.000-05:00Weeks like that really suck. God do they suck. Bel...Weeks like that really suck. God do they suck. Believe me, I know.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there, I'm sure next week will be better.<BR/><BR/>((hug))Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02409530202277375625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-73444458387564720672008-03-14T22:15:00.000-05:002008-03-14T22:15:00.000-05:00I knew which book it was without even clicking on ...I knew which book it was without even clicking on it!<BR/><BR/>There's nothing wrong with a "naughty step." We have one ourselves. The problem with the book mentioned and a slew of other books like it is that the implication is that if you just do everything "right," you will have happy, well-behaved children.<BR/><BR/>I am here to free you from that misconception. When your children misbehave, it is not your fault. If you neglect to correct them, then that is your fault. And if they misbehave again, that's normal. Children take a lot of correction.<BR/><BR/>Lay down some non-negotiables and enforce them. Usually only two or three rules, adequately enforced, bring relative peace to your household.<BR/><BR/>Dr. John Rosemond and Dr. Ray Guarendi are my favorite child-raising gurus. Check them out. Because you deserve a better day!Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35507576.post-53822274065669749362008-03-14T20:53:00.000-05:002008-03-14T20:53:00.000-05:00I can relate to you totally! I have 4 kids, age 15...I can relate to you totally! I have 4 kids, age 15 (boy), 12 (girl) will be 13 in a month, 2.5 (girl) and 7 months, (boy). Oh my oldest son is great, not mouthy at all but my daughter who is 12....well she takes the cake when it comes to mouthiness...I wish you the best and know you are not alone! :)Melanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04167151300858497228noreply@blogger.com